The Ephemerality of Success

The only emperor is the emperor of ice-cream. ― Wallace Stevens

You’re undoubtedly familiar with the “this too shall pass” bromide used to attenuate misery. This trope can offer transitory solace if the intensity of disaster has a projected expiration date. Conversely, “this too won’t last” (The Callie Rogers Effect) is a reminder of the short shelf-life for the gratification of success and the intoxicating effects of euphoria. A human tendency is to subconsciously attach our well-being or feelings of significance to the contingent nature of episodic outcomes. But to imagine ourselves being the object of unmitigated prosperity prepares the soil for devastation whenever reality takes a circuitous route. Wishful thinking that is disproportionate to the available evidence is more likely to induce a state of neurosis when the actual schematics of an event unfolds. The automaticity of self-abasement can emerge whenever our anticipated trajectory is derailed, but long-term collateral damage occurs if we attribute the failure of outcomes to the failure of self.

Fluctuation of circumstance is the sine qua non of existence. The sooner we can see ourselves as an adaptive system within an oscillating system, the less dependent we’ll become on heroic attempts to inoculate ourselves against the vagaries of happenstance. As always, the locus of control is amorphous and no person is so self-sufficient as to indefinitely circumvent loss, compromise, and tribulation. If winning the lottery of experience was a daily occurrence, there would be no background of banality to compare it with. Outliers of fortune are only meaningful in a transitory context, but the re-experiencing of success as an affirmation of our worth comes at one’s peril.

Selective Assessments

The freedom of speech is meaningless unless it means the freedom of the person who thinks differently. Rosa Luxemburg

It’s becoming a proverbial axiom that whenever any topic related to legislation overemphasizes the word freedom, the subsequent proposal is often attached to an avalanche of restrictions for the non-recipient. What’s not mentioned, and rarely understood, is how the intended beneficiary of these freedoms unwittingly experiences captivity by default.

In governor Bill Haslam’s self-appointed role as a surrogate mental health practitioner, his unrivaled clinical wisdom has provided licensed counselors in the state of Tennessee the “opportunity” to refuse services to clients based on any religious (aka personal) disapproval of their client’s values. To my knowledge, a values-based spectrum disorder hasn’t been planned for future editions of the DSM; but let’s not ignore the monolithic hues available within this freedom of diagnostic choice. For example, the freedom of not being able to assist a client because we don’t agree with their values will surely benefit both the practitioner and the person who is in need of therapeutic support. The freedom of not knowing how to interact with complex multicultural issues or lifestyle proclivities will most likely augment the therapist’s comprehensive understanding of how to apply specialized modalities in psychology while inadvertently strengthening community cohesion by expressing consideration for all genders, lifestyles, sexual preferences, and matters related to ethnology. The freedom to preemptively impose judgment on any individual who is suffering from mental illness, cognitive dissonance, social taboos, or situational stressors will certainly illuminate a path to emotional equanimity with the added bonus of “freeing up” any responsibility for influencing adaptive decision making. If Freud’s cautionary advice regarding the narcissism of small differences was ever disheartening, surely this force multiplier for discrimination will altruistically buffer the ongoing stigma of seeking mental health treatment.

Once again, the specious banner of freedom is conveniently smothering access for those who are already hesitant about engaging in psychosocial services. Instead of promoting inclusive policies to embrace diversity within diverse communities, a tendentiously retrograde maneuver to amplify exclusivity is clearly on offer as Tennessee becomes even more landlocked as a southeastern beacon for bigotry. Therapists in the Volunteer State have been advised to avoid thinking globally while being legally encouraged to increase prejudice and bias locally. In conjunction, the only qualified clinicians left to choose from will be those who are willing to volunteer (pun most likely intended) treatment in the face of this risible policy. What a privilege it is for trained counselors to rejoice in the wake of Haslam’s success―removing any scintilla of discomfort practitioners may face when confronted by a challenging client who inherited dissimilar life experiences.

Is it a coincidence that the state’s official bird is now mocking us? Indeed, a decided diminution of freedom is finally available for us all.



The Foibles of Appraisal

A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it. —- Oscar Wilde

It has been said that there are many distinctions without a difference, but sometimes distinctions define the differences that matter most. Among a variety of circumstantial experiences, how we interpret undesirable situations in particular can determine our potential for encountering psychological damage in general.

Isolating the tyranny of circumstance from the tyranny of self is one of those crucial bifurcations that separates what the psychologist Daniel Kahneman refers to as the “experiencing self” from the “remembering self.” What we believe about ourselves in relation to remembering a traumatic incident or personal injustice can exacerbate the intensity of what we actually experienced at the time it occurred. Similarly, the acknowledgment of something being abysmal does not obligate one to endorse a perpetuation of the abyss.

Albert Ellis, the purveyor of all things rational, once commented, “People don’t just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.” To be philosophically copacetic, this quote can appear dismissive and more than a bit depoliticized when recognizing the emotional devastation that could be expected on any spectrum of trauma. However, this proposition has merit when considering the black hole of masochism that often ensues whenever we assume full responsibility for random misadventures. In other words, to what degree does emotional incrimination and relentless self-criticism become a long-term liability in the wake of misfortune? To employ a useful analogy, sometimes our perception of temperature is disproportionate to the actual temperature. Variables such as wind, humidity, cloud cover, and the location of the sun influence perception in ways that can make temperature feel warmer or colder. Likewise, the fluctuating variables of experience are subject to a wide range of interpretations that can be negatively internalized or retroactively exported at the expense of those around us. Ironically, it’s the perpetual exchange of experiences that makes our lives possible. Similar to the emergence of temperature due to particle friction and the effects of thermal radiation, everything that can be classified as a positive or negative experience is inexorably tied to the onslaught of unavoidable interactions.

The development of a psychological “filtration system” to identify experiences that are central to constructions of identity rather than incidental is another distinction with a qualitative difference. For example, the arduous ethical convictions and philosophical insights developed through enduring life’s fluctuating variables should be central to our concept of self. On the contrary, being defined by the unpredictability of circumstance is not only unsustainable; it’s insane.

Post hoc assimilation of experience allows for the selective integration and re-interpretation of events without feeling conscripted to an immutable narrative. Likewise, validating the fluidity of process keeps us from emphasizing the significance of any interval within a process.

To be held hostage by a crisis should not result in being a lifetime apologist for the crisis itself.